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Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Dressed, But Not Ready To Go

It has been a rough week.  Actually, every week is a rough week when you have a kid.  No one tells you this before you have kids.  But, I’ll save that blog for a another day.  It’s been a rough week.  On Monday, I was already to leave for work, when I realized a little girl had wiped her milk mouth all over me and the evidence was on my blouse.  I had to make a last minute outfit change. 

On Tuesday, baby girl had a huge poop.  It is always fun trying to change a diaper on a baby who refuses to stay still.  There is just no reasoning with an 8 month old.  Somewhere between the carrying her to the changing table and the squirming and wiggling I got poop on my blouse.  Again I had to make a last minute outfit change.

Today, I was determined not to get anything on me.  As the babysitter was saying goodbye, the baby started to cry.  It was her first don’t-leave-me-mommy tears, and I got them all over me.  Those tears pierced through my sweater and dress straight to my heart.  I was able to quickly calm her down, leave her in good-capable arms, and get on my way to work. 


By the time I climbed onto the train I had concluded one major thing.  I’ll take the poop over the tears any day!

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Ready for Battle

Last week I made the trip to Springfield to testify on the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) in the State Senate Executive Committee. I was determined to make history. During the drive there, I experienced a milestone and made my own, personal history. I found my very first gray hair. I found myself more shocked about the gray hair than the fact that I was about to testify about a constitutional amendment a century in the making. 

"What do I do?" I rhetorically asked. I stared at it for a while, and finally I made a decision. It is a sign of maturity and wisdom. It will be good luck! It is a badge on my uniform. I smiled as I patted it back on my head. 

I am ready for battle. I'm ready to get the ERA passed, and I'm ready to age gracefully. I'm a feminist. I am THE feminist, which really just means I'm a warrior. I'm a warrior for equal rights. I'm a warrior for my daughter, for myself, for all women. Bring it world. Bring it life. I'm ready! 

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

ERA

Below is the Statement I delivered to the Illinois Senate Executive Committee today on the ERA:

I’m Cristina Villarreal and I am President of the Chicago Chapter of the National Organization for Women.  Thank you for allowing me to speak today, it is an honor to be a part of this history that has been in the works for nearly a century.  And though I am glad that the discussion of equal rights is continuing, I’m disappointed that this amendment has not been ratified by our state sooner. 
I would like to discuss viability of the equal rights amendment. There is an argument that your vote today is not important, that because the 1982 Congressional deadline for ratification has passed, there is no point in Illinois ratifying the Amendment, but I’m here to assure you your vote today will make a difference. 

Article V of the U.S. Constitution gives Congress the power to propose amendments, and it gives Congress a uniquely broad authority over the amendment process. However, the Constitution remains silent on time limits for ratification and the power of Congress to impose time limits.  
Case law tries to clear this up.  InDillon v. Gloss (1921) the court ruled that an amendment should be ratified within a “reasonable” and “sufficiently contemporaneous” time frame.  In Coleman v. Miller (1939)the Court ruled that only congress can determine what is “reasonable” and “sufficiently contemporaneous.”

The Madison Amendment (Congressional pay), is an example of how “sufficiently contemporaneous” is determined by congress.  The Madison Amendment was originally passed by Congress in 1789, but did not become ratified until 1992.  If 203 years can be considered “reasonable” and “sufficiently contemporaneous,” than so can a few decades taken to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment.  

When ratified, these will all be arguments that can be made if necessary, but most recently inNOW v. Idaho (1982) the U.S. Supreme Court declared regardless of any legal questions on issues related to deadlines and ratification are moot, because the Amendment has not been ratified  by 38 states`. 
The Three State Approach argues that there needs to be three more states to ratify the amendment and then Congress with it’s broad authority on the ratification process can do it’s job, and make a decision on the ratification of the Equal Rights Amendment.  The Congressional Research Service has reported on the viability of the Equal Rights Amendment, and they have concluded that even without the Three State Approach, there are legal strategies that could be used to still get the amendment ratified.  

Your vote could be a step in not only making women equal under the constitution, but also to getting a historical clarification on the ratification process. If you are a nerd like me, than you know that's a big deal. 

On another note, your vote matters for reasons other than simply because ratification is still viable.  You have an opportunity to right a historical wrong.  This amendment should have been ratified by the state, years before I was born, but it wasn’t, and you have an opportunity to get on the path to fixing that today.  But more than just fixing a historical wrong, we have a chance to make history.  Illinois has an opportunity to be at the forefront of revitalizing the women’s rights movement.  We can give hope, where hope was lost, and continue to move our nation forward into a more perfect union of equality. 

At the end of the day, after that long legal history and explanation on viability I just gave you, I would like to conclude with, viability does not matter.  Viability is irrelevant when it comes to doing the right thing. I have a young, amazing daughter at home.  What matters most is telling her and girls like her, that under the U.S. Constitution, they has equal rights.  I want my daughter to grow up in a state with legislators that value her rights and have the “yes” vote to prove it.  I urge you to please vote yes on SJRCA 75. 

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

#BringBackOurGirlsChicago #BringBackOurGirls


Last week I wrote about my outrage regarding the kidnapped girls in Nigeria. Over the weekend my daughter and I joined the #BringBackOurGirlsChicago march.  It was important to me to take my daughter to stand up for girls who have no voice.

My Baby Girl's first Rally/March
A few things stand out about this weekend.  First, after attending this march, I was watching the HBO show Vice.  There was an episode on The Pink Gang in India.  It is a group of women who have joined together in order to protect each other, because of a legal system that fails women.  Men who rape women are nearly never prosecuted and there is such deep corruption in the system women are scared to press charges against their attackers.  I couldn't help to think how lucky my daughter and I are to be in this country.  We can have the right to not only stand up for ourselves, but also to the injustices that are happening across the world.

Family, Friends, Sisters
Second, I was struck about how fortunate my daughter is to have so many women in her life that are an example of strong and caring women.  It is their efforts that will make my daughter's life easier.  It is their love that will foster her.  I am so glad she will grow up knowing the value of sisterhood.  She will know whether the girl lives next door or thousands of miles away, they are her sisters in life!

Third, I hope I will teach my daughter the value of her rights, to fight to keep her rights and to fight for the rights of others.  Why were those girls such a threat to Boko Haram? They were getting educated.  I hope my daughter values her education.  I hope that her education will come a little easier than mine or even her fathers, but I hope no matter what she appreciates it.  I hope she knows that the more she reads and the more she learns the more powerful she becomes.  I hope she will share this gift of learning with others.

Meanwhile, there are still hundreds of girls being held captive in Nigeria.  We will not forget about them.  We will not let this go.  Every time I see my daughter's smiling face, I will think of them.  Every time I think of the opportunities she will have, I will think of those girls.  We will not rest until we #BringBackOurGirls!
GIRLS RULE
#BringBackOurGirls





Saturday, May 10, 2014

Happy Mother's Day to the Motherless Daughters!

My daughter is the best thing that has ever happened to me.  After I lost my mom in 2007, Mother’s Day has been a hard day for me.  There is no avoiding it.  It’s everywhere, the stores, the radio, television ads, social media, everywhere.  But this Mother’s Day is bitter sweet.  It’s still a difficult day.  I still don’t have my mom, but it is my first year as a mother.  I have quickly come to realize that the 7 months of my life with my baby have been the best 7 months of my life and there is no greater joy than to be her mother.  I have written before how my daughter has helped me heal from the loss of my mother.  I think I will continue to heal a little this Mother’s Day as well, because this year, I get the honor and privilege of being Catalina’s Mom.


Happy Mother's Day to the Motherless Daughters! I know you wish you could sleep through this day. But remember, you are a reflection of a great woman! And even if you aren't a mother, you are a mother like figure to someone, and they are a reflection of another great woman!   

Monday, May 5, 2014

#BringBackOurGirls

Why does the world not care about girls?  I have been so saddened, sickened, concerned, disgusted, with the kidnapping of a school of girls in Nigeria.  I have read many online articles, but I'm shocked by how even reputable news sites don't have the facts.  I have read there are 190 kidnapped girls, 234 kidnaped girls, 276 kidnapped girls.  I have read they were kidnaped on March 14th, April 16th, and April 21st.  It's as if we are saying, the girls aren't even important for us to get the facts right, let alone get real media attention.

The Nigerian government has done nothing as these girls have been sold into "marriage," read slavery, read raped, for $12 each.  A Nigerian Islamist Militant group is taking credit for this terrorist act, but meanwhile, activist Naomi Mutah is being arrested for leading the campaign #BringBackOurGirls and Nigeria's first lady had ordered women to stop protesting.

I've always been interested in human rights and women rights.  I studied international politics in college, because I thought I could make a difference in this world globally, and never have I felt that need more than now, as a mother of a girl.  What if it was my baby girl?  Some people may think a country thousands of miles away has no effect on my daughter, but I want her to know girls matter.  I want her to grow up in a world that values girls. I want her to know her life, and that of girls around the world, is worth something.  The world needs to stand up and show all girls, they are worth more than $12, their lives, their rights, their bodies, their happiness, their freedom is priceless!

What can you do? Let's show First Lady Jonathan that, we will NEVER stop fighting for our girls.  You can sign the White House Petition and you can sign the Change.org Petition.  Even if media has been slow to cover this, you can spread the word.  That's the beauty of social media.  Use the hash tag #BringBackOurGirls.  Blog about it. Talk about it. Be outraged about it. If you are in Chicago, you can rally in solidarity on Saturday May 10th in Daley Plaza.  If you aren't in Chicago, there will be a rally in your area.  You can find them by doing a simple search of the #BringBackOurGirls and your city.

#BringBackOurGirls, because they are all our daughters!

Saturday, April 19, 2014

40 Days of No Facebook

I gave up Facebook for lent, and I was hoping for some great revelation.  Something along the lines of “it was great to spend more time with my family.”  Or maybe something like “It was a relief to not have to come up with a witty status update that didn’t involve the weather.”   Sadly my revelation was simply, “this is so inconvenient.” I did not learn sacrifice or improve my relationship with God in any way. 

I am Board President of the Chicago Chapter of the National Organization for Women, in order to organize, I use Facebook as a tool daily.  Whether it is for networking or sharing information.  I will admit, I had to sneak on there quickly to get some stuff done that I couldn’t do without it, like to share a Facebook event invitation. I tried to come up with creative ways to do what I needed to do, but in the end Facebook was often the best tool.  I guess the positive is, I am efficiently using that tool. 

During lent, technically a little more than 40 days, my baby has grown up so much.  She has rolled over, crawled, started sitting by herself and started eating baby food.  She has grown so fast.  I feel like many out of state family and friends have missed out on seeing this.  The next picture I post (that only friends and family can see) is going to make them shocked.   I missed sharing my pride and joy with people who have known me for so long.

I feel like I have missed what’s trending in the world.  I’ve missed that cute youtube video.  I’ve missed what the popular song is.  I’ve missed the story about heroism or that tragic disgusting story.  Don’t get me wrong, I still read and watch lots and lots of news, but I miss seeing what other people think is interesting or worthy of sharing. I missed knowing what big events are happening in people’s lives.  I know there is so much I have missed out on.

I really missed not being on Facebook during the elections I missed what people were saying or debating.  I missed staying connected while also trying to run the CNOW PAC.  Social media has become a necessary part of campaigns. 

A few days ago, the talented Gabriel Garcia Marquez died. I missed having people to mourn with.  Marquez was the Latin American author.  He made realism magico popular and received the Nobel Prize in literature for his work.  He painted a picture of Colombia that was something more than La Violencia (both the era & the violence).  He was famous for his novel A Hundred Years of Solitude, but one of my all time favorite novels is Love in a time of Colera.  Without Facebook, I wasn’t connected to my friends who felt the deep sadness of a world without such a gifted writer in it.  I missed sharing that loss and discussing it. 


In conclusion, the benefits and convenience of Facebook out weigh the distractions of it. I learned that Facebook is now a common part of my life as email is.  I wouldn’t give up email or my telephone, so I shouldn’t give up Facebook.  I just have to remember that everything in life is ok in moderation.

Saturday, April 12, 2014

La Leche

I did it!  

There are so many things about pregnancy and being a mother that I planned, but did not work out.  When I set a goal that my daughter would be exclusively breastfed until she was 6 months, I knew it would not be an easy task.  But I did it!
For when I'm doing
my "motherly duties." 

This isn’t a judgment against those who couldn’t or chose not to breastfeed.  Everyone has to make the decision about what is right for their own situation.  

This is all 100% a big pat on my own back.  This is about me. 

This is about me making a decision that what was best for my baby was for her to only drink breast milk for the first six months of her life to lower the risk of her getting diabetes. 

This was about me knowing that exclusively breastfeeding for 6 months could help lower my risk of getting ovarian cancer.  I kept this valuable information with me at 3am when I was exhausted.  I will do anything to increase the possibility that I will be on this earth to meet my grandchildren. 

This is about me returning to work after only 6 weeks of maternity leave, but not giving up on a goal I set. 

Antique Breast Pump
(I didn't try this one)
This is about being a working mom and the president of a board for a women’s rights organization, but still finding the time to remain committed to breastfeeding. 

This is about that day I had to get back to a reporter on a deadline and I had a desk full of work, but I multitasked and prioritized so that I could still manage to bring my daughter her dinner.  

This is about, in Illinois, according to the CDC, only 11% of babies are exclusively breastfed for 6 months.

This is about two weeks ago when my milk supply dwindled and the milk in the freezer was gone.  I ate carrots, pumped, ate garlic, pumped, ate oatmeal, pumped, drank nursing tea (a lot of nursing tea), pumped, took fenugreek, pumped, called the lactation counselor, power pumped, drank lots of water, and woke up and pumped even when the baby was sleeping.


This was about me, wanting to give my daughter this one simple gift. 


And I did it!